In
https://github.com/ruby/ruby/commit/f075be3dcb4b82b89496d1820002bf3d80f653ef
did_you_mean and error_highlight now use `detailed_message` over
`message` to display errors.

For cases where we are testing `message`, in 3.2 and above we need to
test against `detailed_message` instead.

As far as I can tell in a Rails console when these errors are raised the
`detailed_message` is used so we shouldn't need to make other changes to
Rails. The only case where this isn't true is in the Railties changes -
we are explicitly formatting the did you mean message so we need to be
sure to call `detailed_message` here.

This fixes most of the failing tests for ruby-trunk.